William Michael Forbes
The mind has a memory that causes some people to forget who they really are.. wmf
A Well Known Fact: The Ego only sees what it remembers...not what is real. To see what is real one must forget to remember in order to be in the truth of any moment.
My Bluetooth earpiece had gone missing for four days. On the fourth day it had cooled somewhat and the rain was falling and we decided to take the dog out for a walk. Tika and I stood by the front door waiting for NJ to put on her boots...first the left and then suddenly she screamed...
“aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!!” and leaped onto my body becoming an instant part of me....”there’s something in my boot....I think it’s a mouse!” We were looking down at the boot on its side both anticipating a furry grey resident scurrying away...nothing emerged. NJ gently uncoiled herself from my body and stood beside me. I moved cautiously towards boot, lifted it up and looked carefully inside and began to laugh as I pulled my missing Bluetooth from within the boot...then NJ and I were laughing hard for a good minute, then began to wonder, how her mind could interpret the sensation of the Bluetooth in her boot as if it were a mouse, which then caused the behaviour of NJ leaping onto my body. First there were the obvious similarities, a mouse is small...sometimes grey, with small legs and paws. My Bluetooth was small, grey and has a long slim arm that fits around my ear.
Other than those similarities...a mouse and my Bluetooth are nothing at all like one another...one is alive one is inanimate, one is furry one is hard plastic, one plugs in the other eats food...NJ’s memory and not what was occurring in the moment was what had caused the misperception that caused her behaviour. Had she had the information of plastic, hard, she would have simply reached into the boot, pulled out my Bluetooth and said...”Here’s your Bluetooth William. Information was missing from the moment and therefore conclusions and actions followed from what was available a the time. The same is true in any moment of our daily lives...if we are operating under limited, inaccurate and incomplete information...then our behaviour will be governed by that information, unless we choose to, which brings us to today blog on How to be happy in fifteen minutes or less.
For two minutes out of each of the next seven hours...(more if you like) notice when you or others around you are making decisions, based on either limited or preconceived beliefs ( a tip for identifying when this is occurring is when there seems to be a hint of conflict or something doesn’t feel right...an awkward silence)...especially notice if find yourself behaving negatively or others are behaving negatively towards you...chances are there are preconceived notions going on in the mind(s) of those involved in the current situation. At such points ask yourself the question...what thoughts am I thinking right now, and what can I ask to find out if they are true? Often miscommunication happens not because anyone intends it...but because we are coming from a mindset of preconceived ideas about the situation and people involved. Remember to breath, relax and smile before and after each two minute period and...
Have a great day!
William
Copyright © 2010 by William Michael Forbes. All rights reserved.
Monday, April 5, 2010
Friday, April 2, 2010
To love and be loved.
William Michael Forbes
Every human interaction is based in the fulfillment of needs. wmf
A Well Known Fact: If a need is thwarted...the individual will adapt.
I’m going to make today’s How to be happy in fifteen minutes or less simple and fun. It’s all about loving or being loved, which is a basic human need and behaviour....it is a need when we require it and a behaviour when we give it. Love is in abundant supply once it is engaged consciously by us as what we think, say and do. And so for two minutes out of each of the next seven hours, think, say and do only with a feeling of love behind and within your behaviour...remember to relax yourself before you start, notice how you feel before, during and after each two minute period and...
Have a great day!
William
Copyright © 2010 by William Michael Forbes. All rights reserved.
Every human interaction is based in the fulfillment of needs. wmf
A Well Known Fact: If a need is thwarted...the individual will adapt.
I’m going to make today’s How to be happy in fifteen minutes or less simple and fun. It’s all about loving or being loved, which is a basic human need and behaviour....it is a need when we require it and a behaviour when we give it. Love is in abundant supply once it is engaged consciously by us as what we think, say and do. And so for two minutes out of each of the next seven hours, think, say and do only with a feeling of love behind and within your behaviour...remember to relax yourself before you start, notice how you feel before, during and after each two minute period and...
Have a great day!
William
Copyright © 2010 by William Michael Forbes. All rights reserved.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
From I can’t to I can part two.
William Michael Forbes
Can’t is the voice of fear, can is the voice of Your Soul. wmf
A Well Known Fact: I can’t causes measurable constrictions in body functioning...I can creates expansion, flow, increased health and prosperity.
The words “I can” are a powerful set of words when there is a force of action behind them. The action behind the words “I can.” might be the intense physical actions of football players clashing while one team is aiming to score a goal as the other team is defending. The action behind I Can could be the intensity of a single stroke from an artist’s paintbrush, it could be the effort of a breath or the dialling of a telephone...I can always translates into an action of some kind in order for a result to occur...without the actions the life of I can has no heartbeat. To truly give our dreams and aspirations life action is imperative...movement is life...inactivity is decay, at least where living organisms are concerned.
If you have followed the steps in part one of I can’t to I can, you now have a hot list of things that your mind believes that it can’t do, that if you have accepted these beliefs then you haven’t done what you have yearned to do with your life. Today we are going to have you shift your mind towards “I can” by using the I Can’t list. Yesterday you were requested to ask yourself the following question with regards to each “I can’t” you wrote down; “If I didn’t have this belief how would it make my life better?” and you wrote down at least one answer for each I can’t. These answers are your keys to unlocking yourself from your past-mind.
Let’s say that one of my “I cant’s” is: “I can’t find the right publisher” and in response to the question... If I didn’t have this belief how would it make my life better? I wrote; I would know that I just have to keep looking until I find one. The answer actually gave me an action step that I can take now, i.e. keep looking for a publisher. Let’s say another of my “I cant’s” is, “I can’t get along with Mike.” in response to the question... If I didn’t have this belief how would it make my life better? I get the idea that I can try talking with him differently than I have. Another action step for me to take, emerged from my answer to the question.
For Today’s How to be happy in fifteen minutes or less, you will need about a two minutes for each of the next seven hours. Start each two minutes off by relaxing your body, by taking a few slow deep breaths and relaxing your mind by imagining hearing only silence. Then look at one of your answer and ask yourself this question; “What action does this answer indicate that I can take right now?” If you get an answer take the action as soon as you can...and notice what you feel before, during and after you take the action. Try and complete one action every hour for the next seven hours and...
Have a great day!
William
Copyright © 2010 by William Michael Forbes. All rights reserved.
Can’t is the voice of fear, can is the voice of Your Soul. wmf
A Well Known Fact: I can’t causes measurable constrictions in body functioning...I can creates expansion, flow, increased health and prosperity.
The words “I can” are a powerful set of words when there is a force of action behind them. The action behind the words “I can.” might be the intense physical actions of football players clashing while one team is aiming to score a goal as the other team is defending. The action behind I Can could be the intensity of a single stroke from an artist’s paintbrush, it could be the effort of a breath or the dialling of a telephone...I can always translates into an action of some kind in order for a result to occur...without the actions the life of I can has no heartbeat. To truly give our dreams and aspirations life action is imperative...movement is life...inactivity is decay, at least where living organisms are concerned.
If you have followed the steps in part one of I can’t to I can, you now have a hot list of things that your mind believes that it can’t do, that if you have accepted these beliefs then you haven’t done what you have yearned to do with your life. Today we are going to have you shift your mind towards “I can” by using the I Can’t list. Yesterday you were requested to ask yourself the following question with regards to each “I can’t” you wrote down; “If I didn’t have this belief how would it make my life better?” and you wrote down at least one answer for each I can’t. These answers are your keys to unlocking yourself from your past-mind.
Let’s say that one of my “I cant’s” is: “I can’t find the right publisher” and in response to the question... If I didn’t have this belief how would it make my life better? I wrote; I would know that I just have to keep looking until I find one. The answer actually gave me an action step that I can take now, i.e. keep looking for a publisher. Let’s say another of my “I cant’s” is, “I can’t get along with Mike.” in response to the question... If I didn’t have this belief how would it make my life better? I get the idea that I can try talking with him differently than I have. Another action step for me to take, emerged from my answer to the question.
For Today’s How to be happy in fifteen minutes or less, you will need about a two minutes for each of the next seven hours. Start each two minutes off by relaxing your body, by taking a few slow deep breaths and relaxing your mind by imagining hearing only silence. Then look at one of your answer and ask yourself this question; “What action does this answer indicate that I can take right now?” If you get an answer take the action as soon as you can...and notice what you feel before, during and after you take the action. Try and complete one action every hour for the next seven hours and...
Have a great day!
William
Copyright © 2010 by William Michael Forbes. All rights reserved.
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